It can be that I am skinny. Or fat. Or tall. Or short. Is there a perfect body, weight, height, a norm that we should try to fit in?
I think you know the answer, right? I hope that a categorical NO is jumping around in your head at the moment.
I am skinny, skinnier than skinny jeans, so who cares?
My mother, every week, when I call her: “Hello, how are you? I know you don’t eat enough, you should really eat more, you are way too skinny, what will you do if a disease hits you? Why do you never listen to me, I am your mother, I want the best for you, please, promise me that you will eat more.”
My boyfriend: “Haha, you are so skinny and still, you have some cellulitis spots! You need to eat more than me!” (Really? I should eat more than a guy who weighs double than me?)
My grandmother: “When will you come visit me? Did you put some weight on? I can’t wait for you to come, you should stay for at least 2-3 days, I will cook everything you like and you will get at least 1 or 2 kilos fatter. Do you like apple pie? Pancakes?”
My friends, when we go shopping: “Oh, the jeans are too big, your butt is too small, can I try those jeans on?”
My inner self: “You are too skinny, could it be that you are sick? Maybe you don’t eat enough. Maybe you don’t sleep enough. You shouldn’t wear dresses, your legs are too skinny.”
Today, while I was complaining that my doctor called me anorexic, saying I am too skinny, my colleague told me: “You are normal. I am normal. Everyone is normal. Why do people care about weight so much?”
She is right. Why do we care? I might have skinny legs. I might not be perfect. I might be underweight. Some might be overweight. Some might be tall. Some might be short.
Why do we always care about the things we cannot change? Why do we not have a voice in our head, telling us that we should love our bodies, given the fact that we are stuck with them until we die? Why do we not focus on other things, why do we not try to be outstanding and to create a positive impression with something else than our body?
I don’t want to say that one should eat junk food or not eat at all every day and be happy with it, I am just saying that we should accept ourselves, that there is nothing wrong in eating some chocolate from time to time, in being skinny or overweight, in looking in the mirror and being happy with it.
Either way, there will always be haters, so why should we care?